As a new mom, just making it through the day (never mind the nights) can be completely overwhelming and exhausting, and keeping everyone alive in those first few days seems to be the only end goal. But, all of a sudden your tiny, helpless baby looks at you and smiles! Your heart skips a beat because she’s grown up so much in the last few weeks and isn’t quite as fragile as she was. You know her hunger cues and that her little whimpering cries mean that she’s tired, and you know a million other little things about her already.
I’ve been reading various articles and mommy blogs since giving birth to our daughter 8 weeks ago and the general message that comes across seems to be this:
- Being a mom is the hardest thing you’ll ever do
- Blink and you’ll miss it, and before you know it, you have a sassy toddler on your hands
- You can’t spoil your newborn baby with too many naps on your chest or letting them sleep in your bed all night
- Breastfeeding is not always easy or possible. Don’t judge formula moms, you have no idea what they’ve been through
- Mom guilt starts to set in the minute they are born and we all worry ourselves sick about a million little things
- This journey called motherhood is the most beautiful gift, and we want our babies to stop growing and wish time would slow down
Well time is a total motherf*#@er. The newborn baby smell, the endless hours up at night, the hard-earned breast milk, spilling all over the fridge, the tiny fingers wrapped around yours, the first heartbeat you see on the ultrasound scan and a million other little things all fade away into memories in what seems like a spilt second. While you are living the raw madness of having a new baby it seems like those moments will never end, but they will. Live it, breathe it, feel it all and know that you are a damn goddess woman. No matter how you’re doing it. You grew a human and now you get to carry on watching her grow and be there for all the “firsts” and all the “lasts” and a million other little things.
To the moms whose arms are empty – the desperate-to-be-moms – my heart aches for you. Every woman who wants to be a mom thinks that it’s easy to fall pregnant and have a healthy baby. In our close circle of friends we have seen too many tears to know that this is not always the case. Hold your little ones a bit closer and tighter and cherish the million little things, everyday.
Sitting here in my dressing gown with a bad pony tail and last nights baby spit-up on my shoulder, breast pump on one side and baby on the other, luke warm coffee somewhere waiting to be drunk, and a million little things to get done today, I couldn’t be happier. Shout out to all the mamas out there!